I'm always seeing in book stores and even on the internet, books on relationship advice, or how to save your marriage or solving marriage problems.
I really wonder if husbands truly want relationship advice, or if they just want to get their way and win the battle? Well, these men/husbands are shooting themselves in the foot if that's the approach they're taking to their marriage problems.
I don't mean to be chewing men out here, but most men are lying in the bed that they've made for themselves, and it's a thorny bed at best.
So what's the solution?
Well, you can spend 20 years or more of working on your relationship with your wife, through trial and error, as I have. Oh, it's been worth it, we are truly happily married, more on that later. The problem is that there is so little marriage advice that actually works out there, and who do most men go to for that advice? Other men who are probably not really very happily married -- great source, right?
I am lucky though, out of the hundreds of married couples I have known over the years, there have been a handful that have a truly envyable marriage, actually have fun with each other and love spending time together. I have made it a serious project to try to figure out what works and what doesn't. In 20 years of marriage (to the same woman, I might add) I have learned alot of things that have worked -- most of these things by accident, and I never really knew why they worked, but they do so I have tried to build on the small successes.
Recently though I ran across a couple of guys who have taken on in a very serious way this same project that I've been working on. Not just to better their relationships, but to actually help the men of the world to fix their marriage or relationships if they want to. They've delved into the science, culture, and even the way men and woman communicate differently. These guys are just average guys with a passion to make relationships and marriages better, by educating men/husbands in the things that they need to be admired and respected by the most important person in their lives.
When I first heard about what they were doing, it was intriguing to me, but the more I talked to them the more impressed I was with the approach! And what really impressed me was that thay were telling me about things that I had already figured out, but they told me the "why". It would have been so much easier to have learned it from them than to have to do it by trail and error like I did. That was what was so exciting to me -- they've put together a program where men who want to succeed in their relationships can progressively and easily learn these skills. The approach that they take is very simple and fun. I just received the free 3 disk CD set that they give away when you sign up for the free 1 month trial to their website. It's awesome, these disks will save marriages! If this is what they give away, I can't wait to see what they are supplying when you pay for access to their site.
Stay tuned for more information, as it become available to me --
Now it's your turn to share your successes, and even frustrations in this forum below:
Your anniversary celebration ideas can be as original as you are, and that is what will make yours all the more special. You can do many traditional ideas for celebrating anniversaries, but they won’t mean as much if they don’t have some special connection to the past of you and your loved one. Think of things that you love to do together, or even things you did when you first met. Was your first date on the golf course or did you meet through a bowling league? Those things can give you great ideas for celebrating your love and commitment.
Most assume that the big anniversary celebration ideas have to be just as big as the number. While there is no harm in taking a trip together for your anniversary when your marriage hits fifteen years, there is no rule saying that this is what you have to do. You may not have the time or the money, or you may just not be in the mood to travel. Cooking a special meal together and spending an evening alone without the kids can be just as nice. Don’t go by the number, but where you and your spouse are in your lives when you come up with your own anniversary celebration ideas.
Some couples are not that romantic with each other, but that doesn’t mean their relationship is not strong and solid. Some of these couples will decide that the anniversary celebration ideas that work best for them is to have dinner out, and then perhaps just invest in something that means a lot to them. That might mean an improvement to the house, a lease on a new car, or anything that they think is practical. Just remember to say I love you, and remember why you were together in the first place, and just about any ideas you have for celebrating your anniversary should be just fine.
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On the other hand I have known people who truly enjoy being with each other, that is cool. Is it possible if blissful and happy marriage doesn't happen naturally though. Well, I don't think it ever just happens. It takes work on everyones part, including the husband, or maybe I should say especially the husband. Granted it does take 2 to make a successful and blissful marriage, but only one to ruin it. On the other hand all we can really do is change ourselves. So, as men, let's make those changes. We really do have more control over the situation than we want to admit.
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Where can I get those AverageGuyHelp CD's? I think that sounds great. Making a Marriage or a relationship really work no days is more than just doing the best you can, I think a guy really needs to start understanding his lady and even more importantly himself.
The stereotypes that have been shoved down the publics throat over the last 40 years is ruining people. Male - Female, Husband - Wife rolls are confused, and it is not working.
Again where can I get those AverageGuyHelp CD's?
Fred
Hello All,
Yes the AverageGuyHelp Free CD's are awesome. There are 2 of them depending on your particular situation. there is one the the Single Guy, and one for the Married Guy.
Tha one fo the Married Guy is very detailed. The whole title is Helping the Married Guy Rekindle the Passion, Sex, and Happiness in their Relationship.
The cool thing about this information is that it is very nuts and bolts. The assumption is made (And Rightly so I think) that us guys are idiots. we need it all broken down to the basics if we are going to get it, and this CD does that. It's actually 3 audio CD's with 4 to 6 tracks on each CD. Subject matter such as "Control VS. Controlling, "Love Her the Way She Wants to be Loved", and "Date Ideas".
This is really powerful stuff, especially the date ideas. If you use just one of these ideas, you will be amazed at the results in your marriage. Let me give you a clue -- do the "Best Kiss Ever" date. And watch miracles happen.
David
I have been hearing some buzz about the Average Guy Help free CD's too. I am hearing that they are excellent, some information to really sink your teeth into and make some positive changes immediately.
Any experience with them out there?
Fred
I am very happily married, but always did think that there could be more satisfaction. I hope that this forum will give some suggestions in this area. I have always been of the mind that it is easier to read a book that right it, so hope that some very successful husbands can share what they have found works.
I have heard that the averageguyhelp.com program can work well, but don't know if is just hype or what?
Any observations would be nice.
Kelly
In the day and age of throw away marriages, it's nice to see that there is an interest in developing the skill, so to speak to make a successful and happy marriage. Keep up the work. It will be slow to start, but if a few people start paying attention to KeepHerForever.com. I know I am going to be back to see what happens here.
Us Average Guys need help, that's for sure
John
Wow the ladies: Five great dating tips for men
Young men and newly single men are often at a loss when it comes to the opposite sex. Women are so confusing! When you make a move on a girl that you think is romantic and gallant, you may walk away disappointed, soundly rebuffed and without a clue as to what you did wrong. It's true, men are from Mars and women from Venus. While you may think you presented a Prince Valiant image, the girl of your dreams doesn't seem to agree. Why, you ask? Here are five great dating tips for men that are sure to improve your chances.
You must first understand that women have heard all the standard lines. Give your woman some credit. The "Haven't I met you before?" approach is vacuous, at best. If she's worth your time, you must be a little more imaginative and personal. If you're hoping to gain her attention, approach her with something a bit more personal, yet not intrusive.
For example, you spot a stunning girl at the stadium. Leave your friends behind. They won't be of any help. "Excuse me, but I couldn't help noticing your T-shirt. I'm an avid fan of the Lakers and have a couple of tickets to Friday's game. Would you be interested?" She'll be flattered that you noticed her and will be at least willing to continue the conversation.
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Now, our list of dating tips for men gets down to the nitty-gritty. Treat your woman with respect. Many men treat women as airheads, incapable of seeing through their manipulations. Don't make this mistake, not if you hope to have a steady date! Find out what she's interested in and cultivate an interest that shows you care.
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So far, our dating tips for men has focused on enticing your date. The fifth and absolute rule is honesty. Women fall for honesty.
The essence of dating tips for men is this: be yourself. If your hygiene is poor, improve it. Don't rely on slick lines. Express your interest genuinely. Do these things and you've got a date.